What might people just not know about your type of work?
We’ll talk about the best ways to go out on dates … to find dates. What a dating coach will do is enable you and help you go through those motions. If I meet someone, and they turn out to be horrible, you’ll never know. Give me a call if you’re single.” A matchmaker does all that. If I’m going out on a weekend and I’m working with a new client, and I see someone or engage with somebody, I’m like, “Oh my God! You’d be so perfect for this guy that I’m working with.” I’ll seamlessly say, “Here’s my card. a dating coach?Ī matchmaker will go out on bad dates for you! Do the vetting, find people in their day-to-day. What is the difference between being a matchmaker vs. We end up finding someone completely different than who we thought we’d end up with. My client was so beautifully surprised after at him so much … the person he eventually ended up marrying, it was somebody he didn’t expect. I want superman.” But the list doesn’t necessarily lead to the kind of wonderful person you’re going to end up with. He kept bringing a list to the table that said “I want A, B and C. We ended up with the same results all the time. had a client that was not listening to me. The most unusual/surprising/amusing moment in doing your kind of work? But is it an app people used to find a long-term relationship? No. Is it a great way to meet people? Absolutely. Some gay men will tell me, “My friend found his long-term partner or boyfriend through. Well, that’s not where that’s gonna happen. Oftentimes I’ll ask, “Where do you go to find other people to go on dates with?” People will say Grindr. The easiest one is that we can choose a lot of these apps that are out there. What are some of the most common mistakes gay men make when dating? What gets in their way?
We’re just going to be dating and wasting a lot of time with the wrong people. If we’re only going out there, dating without purpose, or with no real destination, then we’re not really gonna be meeting the right people. If your intention is to find a long-term relationship, let’s look for like people, similar people that have that same frame of mind. Are you dating because you want a long-term relationship, or are you dating because you want to go out on Friday night? We have to be dating with intention. The most successful thing that I can tell anyone, especially gay men, is to really take inventory of what you’re dating for. What is one of your most helpful tips for gay men who want to date successfully? Sometimes people reach out to me through social media and say, “Hey, I would love to connect and get your expert advice.” At that point we discuss how I can help them with the advice or direction they need. People get to know me directly through my website to set up a time to talk. I feel like I coined this term, and at some point I should just trademark it because someone might steal it from me, I like to tell people I’m a “love enthusiast.” When it comes to all things love - including rom coms - I kind of go crazy for all that stuff. How do you describe to other people what you do for a living? MORE: Local rapper appears on "Million Dollar Matchmaker." MORE: Gay dating dos and don'ts in Palm Springs All of that is cumulative my expertise and talking about relationships and love, and helping people be successful at them. In addition to that, between podcasts that I host and the different people that I’ve interviewed, as far as experts, I’ve really learned a lot about the different kinds of relationships and dating and love. Working with, and being under the tutelage of, Patti Stanger, I think I really learned a lot about relationships and what it takes for a matchmaker to make connections. What makes you qualified to help people create successful relationships? It’s OK for you to believe in love and want a long-term relationship, to want to get married.” What I really wanted to do was to say, “It’s OK for you to be a romantic. There was nothing out there to support the average gay man in the way they needed to be supported.
We’re gay men.”Īs I threw myself into the dating scene in LA, I quickly became aware that everybody was very jaded.
Somebody said, “Nobody cares about relationships. Why do you care so much about setting people up?Ī long time ago I was at a West Hollywood party and somebody asked me what I did. Sorry, but we have to ask: Are you single? Desert Outlook caught up with him to find out why he can’t help setting LGBTQ people up to find love. Getting his start with Patti Stanger on Bravo’s “The Millionaire Matchmaker,” he now runs his own dating advice company, Finding Cupid, and works with the matchmaking outfit Three Day Rule. Dating coach and matchmaker David Cruz, 41, grew up on Guam before moving to Los Angeles 10 years ago.